Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking. - Marcus Aurelius
0. To be fair
I'm well aware no-one reads 'It's ok to not be ok' as a permanent acceptance of living a depressed life, but that's the way it reads. If things are ok it's very rare that any improvements are made, that's what I'm against. I don't want anyone accepting a less than perfect life as 'ok.' no matter how your life is, strive to make it better. It's the work we put into creating a better world that fills our lives with meaning and crushes depression.
1. It's ok to not be ok
No motivation to do anything. Being depressed. Wanting to end your life? Are these ok? Because I think it's the exact opposite of ok. 'I'm depressed, I hate my life. Honestly I just want to die' 'Oh, don't worry that's ok'. If you're feeling these feelings you're far from ok. Don't accept these as ok, they're not ok, get better.
2. The next domino
'Don't worry if you're depressed, it's ok' followed by a hug feels great, but what happens next? What happens after you accept the hell that you're in as 'ok.' You continue to live in that hell the flames continue to rise until you can handle the heat no more and finally snap. When you release that much pressure the effects are never good.
If it's possible to get yourself into this depressed state, it's possible for you to get yourself out. It's not ok to be not ok. As soon as you feel less than ok, get to work to get better.
Meditate to clear your mind, journal to enhance your thinking, take note of your thoughts throughout the day. Change your thoughts so that they are more positive. Change your actions so that you're creating every day. move towards a better life, don't accept how things are now as ok.
5 = 5
10 X 25 = 250
Ok = not ok
One of the above equations is wrong, but can you work out what one? That's right it's the one that says one thing is the exact same as it's opposite. Well done on seeing that, because many have become blind to this simple fact. Can you fix the equation? Easy!
Ok = Ok
Not ok = Not ok
If you accept that all the bad feelings are ok you might get 'lucky' and become numb to everything. Nothing affects you, you're not happy or sad just in a constant state of numbness.
Feelings are what set us apart from robots, it what makes us human. We're made to feel, even if those feelings suck. Don't accept numbness as ok, it's not.
5. Problem Solving
A gang of thugs are in the distance, running towards you, shouting abuse and swinging weapons. They're going to make you cry. They'll make sure you're screaming in pain. It will take them 5 minutes to reach you. What do you do?
That's right. You wait for them to arrive and accept the beating because a little (or even a hell of a lot of) pain is okay. Really thought you'd turn and run at the first sign of them. Why? Because deep down we know it's not ok. Bad thoughts are no different to that gang. When bad thoughts arise in the distance, you have time to dismiss them, reword them, focus on something else. Don't accept the beating that's coming, run.
Instead of asking yourself 'why does no one like me?'generating a big list of reasons why no one should like you and feeling like crap whenever you read it, pause. Reword your thought into a better question. One that leads to better answers. Answers that make you feel great. Instead of asking 'why does no one like me?' ask 'how can I become more popular ' generate a list of actions you can take to grow and ask you perform said actions your life will slowly improve and as a result you'll feel better.
We are only in control of 2 things our thoughts and actions. Forget everything else and focus on these two things. That's all you need to create a better life.
7. Next Steps
Read through 'The Rocco Effect' comics. They'll provide small tasks that will change your thoughts and actions.
Need more? Buy my happiness guidebooks. They provide 12 tasks, quotes and journal questions that will solidify the lessons from the comics.
Comics - https://www.webtoons.com/en/challenge/the-rocco-effect/list?title_no=708081
Guidebooks - Set-1 Set-2
Thanks for reading.
I know plenty of you will be angry that I dared question 'It's ok to not be ok.' So, take a sip of tea, calm down and let me know why I'm wrong in the comments.