The comfort of having a friend may be taken away, but not that of having had one. – Seneca
When the time comes and our loved ones part from us, what would be the best state for us to be in? I believe it to be a state in which we have no regrets. A state where we are proud of how much meaning we gave to their lives and how much they gave back. A state in which we believe they smiled, thinking of our time together as they passed. So how do we make that goal more likely?
We pause before we speak and act and ask ourselves, "Will I regret saying/doing this?" We plan and attend events that will create memories. We take in as much as we can when we are with loved ones – the sights, sounds, smells, etc. We make sure that regardless of what happened, you both leave every situation happy. People don't remember specifics, but they do remember how you made them feel. Make them feel great.
Task:
Pick any loved one and
1. Imagine the future without them. What's it like? What do they add when they are there?
2. What memories do you focus on when remembering them? How do they make you feel?
3. How much do our grievances really matter?
4. How will this reflection change my actions/feelings towards them?
Journal Questions:
With whom did you make new memories this week?
Whom will you show your appreciation to tomorrow?
With whom do you need to make amends?
